Dr. Josh Mirmelli

Beverly Hills, CA (PSY 31895)

For nearly 15 years, my clinical work has spanned hospitals, residential treatment, universities, and private practice. Those experiences have given me a deep appreciation for the complexity of people's lives and the many ways our histories, relationships, and experiences shape who we become.

I work with individuals, couples, and families navigating complicated relationships, unresolved trauma, addiction, parenting challenges, identity, and significant life transitions. Many of my clients come to therapy feeling overwhelmed, disconnected, or exhausted by problems that seem to follow them from one relationship or chapter of life to the next. Some have spent years trying to understand why they struggle, while others are simply trying to get through a difficult period and find their footing again. Wherever they're starting, they're looking for something to genuinely change.

My approach is direct, engaged, and collaborative. I'm not interested in endlessly revisiting the same problems without challenging what keeps them in place. I pay attention to what you say, what you avoid, and the ways you may contribute to the very circumstances you're trying to change. I'll be candid about what I see, thoughtful about what I challenge, and invested in helping you confront what matters.

Ultimately, what interests me most is what changes outside the therapy room, how you navigate relationships, handle conflict, make difficult decisions, and regain a sense of agency over your life. Understanding yourself matters. What you do with that understanding matters more.

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What sets my work apart

I believe that many of the patterns keeping us stuck began as intelligent responses to difficult circumstances. What once helped us feel safe, maintain connection, or navigate uncertainty can eventually become the very thing that limits our lives. My work focuses on understanding these adaptations with compassion, while being equally willing to challenge the ways they continue to shape our relationships, choices, and sense of self. The goal isn't to reject your past or become someone else. It's to develop the freedom to respond to life as it is now, rather than remain governed by what you once needed to survive.

Our work together is grounded in...

Candor with compassion. Honest, thoughtful feedback that challenges you without losing sight of your humanity.
Depth beyond the surface. A meaningful exploration of trauma, identity, attachment, and the emotional experiences shaping your life.
Insight that demands action. Practical strategies, direct guidance, and the accountability to translate understanding into lasting change.
Understanding the larger picture. Attention to the family, cultural, relational, societal, and LGBTQ+ experiences that shape how you see yourself and move through the world.

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“Fine” is usually a shortcut.
Sometimes it means exhausted.

Sometimes it means content.
Sometimes it means overwhelmed.
Sometimes it means peaceful.

The word itself isn’t the problem. The problem is when it becomes a hiding place.

Welcome. I’m glad you’re here.

I’m Dr. Josh Mirmelli, a licensed psychologist in Los Angeles. My work focuses on helping individuals, couples, and families move through the emotional and relational patterns that keep them stuck.

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Sometimes the problem isn’t that you’re asking for too much. 
It’s that you keep asking the wrong people to give you what they’ve already shown you they can’t. 
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Guilt: I did something bad.
Shame: I am bad.

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I’m here when you’re ready.

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